> A White Woman's Opinion of a Black Woman
>
> It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by
> a
> Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men.
> I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
>
> Dear Jamie: I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your
> Black
> male readers
>
> I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
> Educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females
> attitudes about our relationship.
>
> My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black
> women
> were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too
> mean, too
> argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much
> excess
> baggage.
>
> Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly
> approached
> by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
> Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why
> don't
> they look at themselves and make some changes.
>
> I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're
> out in
> public..... I would like to hear from some Black men about why we
> are so
> appealing and coveted by them.
>
> Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles
> Barkley,
> Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy
> Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi
> Anan,
> Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry
> Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
>
> I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that
> is why
> I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because
> so
> many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us
> and
> we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men,
> let
> me know.
>
> Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
>
> RESPONSE
>
> Dear Jamie I would like to respond to the letter written by A
> Disgusted
> White Girl.
>
> Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I
> graduated
> from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia
> with
> a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job
> at
> a major corporation and have recently purchased a house.
> So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black
> men.
>
> I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just
> want to
> set the record straight of why black men date white women.
> Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated
> white
> women was because they were considered easy.
>
> The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They
> were
> very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost
> it
> to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for
> someone
> who would give it up easy without too much hassle.
> So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot
> of
> brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to
> control.
> A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall
> weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black
> women.
> We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make
> more
> money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of
> this
> fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can
> control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously
> comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white
> women. I
> just want to set the record straight.
> I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black
> men
> date white women.
>
> Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan,
> Morris
> Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds,
> Samuel L.
> Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to
> flip the
> script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight,
> who
> openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
> Danson,
> Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robin Thicke, to name a few..
>
> I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
> thinking that because you are a white that you are some type of
> goddess.
>
> Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris
> were
> ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the
> caves
> of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
> clubs. Read your history!
>
> It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your
> food.
> It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children.
> It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies
> during slavery.
>
> It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
> husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
> Black women were born with two strikes against them; being black
> and
> being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
>
> It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love
> and
> beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen.
> It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to
> them. It
> is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and
> shades
> that I love them.
>
> Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women.
> Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity,
> their
> ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for
> what
> they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
> highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I
> have
> fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger
> is
> geared more toward jealousy and envy moreso than snotty looks.
>
> If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning
> salons
> to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why
> don't you
> just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject
> your
> lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so
> you
> can look fuller and more voluptuous?
>
> I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have
> what
> the black woman has.
>
> BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can
> walk
> over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
> looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and
> mother
> to my children.
> Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I
> am
> looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and;
> unfortunately,
> you do not and CANNOT fit the bill
>
> No offense taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty