the R E A L I ST shxt I've ever read.

> A White Woman's Opinion of a Black Woman
>
> It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by
> a
> Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men.
> I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
>
> Dear Jamie: I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your
> Black
> male readers
>
> I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
> Educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females
> attitudes about our relationship.
>
> My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black
> women
> were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too
> mean, too
> argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much
> excess
> baggage.
>
> Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly
> approached
> by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
> Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why
> don't
> they look at themselves and make some changes.
>
> I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're
> out in
> public..... I would like to hear from some Black men about why we
> are so
> appealing and coveted by them.
>
> Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles
> Barkley,
> Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy
> Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi
> Anan,
> Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry
> Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
>
> I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that
> is why
> I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because
> so
> many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us
> and
> we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men,
> let
> me know.
>
> Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
>
> RESPONSE
>
> Dear Jamie I would like to respond to the letter written by A
> Disgusted
> White Girl.
>
> Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I
> graduated
> from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia
> with
> a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job
> at
> a major corporation and have recently purchased a house.
> So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black
> men.
>
> I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just
> want to
> set the record straight of why black men date white women.
> Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated
> white
> women was because they were considered easy.
>
> The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They
> were
> very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost
> it
> to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for
> someone
> who would give it up easy without too much hassle.
> So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot
> of
> brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to
> control.
> A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall
> weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black
> women.
> We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make
> more
> money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of
> this
> fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can
> control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously
> comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white
> women. I
> just want to set the record straight.
> I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black
> men
> date white women.
>
> Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan,
> Morris
> Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds,
> Samuel L.
> Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to
> flip the
> script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight,
> who
> openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
> Danson,
> Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robin Thicke, to name a few..
>
> I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
> thinking that because you are a white that you are some type of
> goddess.
>
> Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris
> were
> ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the
> caves
> of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
> clubs. Read your history!
>
> It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your
> food.
> It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children.
> It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies
> during slavery.
>
> It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
> husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
> Black women were born with two strikes against them; being black
> and
> being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
>
> It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love
> and
> beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen.
> It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to
> them. It
> is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and
> shades
> that I love them.
>
> Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women.
> Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity,
> their
> ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for
> what
> they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
> highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I
> have
> fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger
> is
> geared more toward jealousy and envy moreso than snotty looks.
>
> If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning
> salons
> to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why
> don't you
> just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject
> your
> lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so
> you
> can look fuller and more voluptuous?
>
> I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have
> what
> the black woman has.
>
> BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can
> walk
> over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
> looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and
> mother
> to my children.
> Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I
> am
> looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and;
> unfortunately,
> you do not and CANNOT fit the bill
>
> No offense taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty

Labor day weekend!

At first I thought this weekend was gonna SUCKKK cause i couldn't go see my baby, Nigel but then my GB and her friend came down and things came together a piece at a time w/ tolerance and patience. But never again will I go to these ghetto ass clubs, we wasted good outfits but at the end of the day I had a overall good weekend. Love my bitches.

Just a like a rose.

even though we weren't talking he still wrote this about me <3



Someone asked me to compare love to something today....Though id share my response



If i could describe love, i would say its just like a Rose.

Starts off simple enough, as simple as planting a seed.

The more time you put into it the more beautiful the result.

It takes the right Chemistry to make it work

From the soil to water to the amount of light you give it.

Friendship is the soil, with out the soil your Rose has nothing you grow from

Trust is your Water, without water your Rose will never grow

Loyalty is your Sun light, Your Rose will grow in the direction of the light you give it

Sad to say all roses eventually die, Except the artificial

But i rather have a real rose last as long as it can

Rather than have a artificial rose that last forever.

written by Nigel C.

Ripped, my favorite :)

RANDOM, BUT I LOVE RIPPED JEANS. WENT THROUGH MY CLOSET AND REALIZED I HAVE MORE RIPPED JEANS THAN REGULAR. BURRR WHEN WINTER COMES haha. BUT THEY JUST SEEM MORE EDGEY TO ME. I CANT FUCKS WIT IT. BUT THOSE JEANS THAT ARE RIPPED TOO MUCH THAT YOU CAN SEE MOST OF YOUR LEG, I DONT FUCKS WIT IT.

My Gutta Bitches

I think these the realest bitches i met. I met them in tech school and we was only together a few months but they were my family and we were inseparable. Never did they judge, they aint take no shit, and they was always down for the team. They kept niggas breaking necks and breaking hearts too. I miss them and definitely will need to see them soon.

♥ you Charity and Iris

Sorry, I can't be perfect.

And this is how I feel today. I feel like people expect so much of me that I can't give or just not ready to give. I might think I'm ready but Idk how I really will know. Don't wanna make any more mistakes, need to start learning the first time. But I'm not a child so I'm not expected to be treated like one or talked to as if i am one. People dont understand I DO try even though its not on "their" time so I guess its not enough but pretty much,

I'm sorry I cant be perfect

Top 8 facebook pet peeves of Nige and I

8. People that try and compress words that they cant spell in to one as if it looks right(ex: fcebk is not facebook)

7. People who you use the number 5 instead of the letter S (ex:5mart <--thats not smart)

6. People who spell cool with a K, its the same amount of letters so just use the C.

5. Liking your own status...just like high fiving yourself, we know you like it you wrote it.

4. People who have no job but every status is about getting money or doing it BIG. -_-

3. 30 year olds still taking Bs and Cs out of they sentences cause they rep they set...really nigga grow up!

2. Single[ ] In a relationship[ ] Married[ ] Engaged[ ] Shuffle[x] ...make up your mind please for the sake of my news feed, it's something new everyday.

1. People who still type like this... h3Y G!r1... it's so much easier to write regular, damn.

AND THIS IS IT, PEOPLE ARE GONNA HATE US FOR THIS BUT IT'S FUNNY. WE LAUGHED PRETTY HARD MAKING, ALL THAT REALLY MATTERS TO ME. :D



AND THIS SONG IS DEDICATED TO EVERYONE WHO FEELS A WAY ABOUT THIS ;) JUST SMILE LOL

bad hair days.

Days like these make me hateee my short hair. I need a perm forreal but trying to let it grow some more before i get one. But if its going to keep looking like this, I gotta give in. I blame Etoyia for persuading me to even try this shit. blahhh.





AND THESE ARE THE BETTER DAYS :)

this damn song has been in my head since Thursday night, I fxckin love it. And he looks pretty damn fine in this video with all them tattoos. But these girls in this video look like men, not hating but they aint the cutest. I love the words though and still on repeat. Wiz Khalifa Radio!

Nigel Contaste :)

Nigel Michael Robert Contaste, that's my baby! He's my past, present, future...what more can I say. He's been in my life for over a year but been officially mines since 9.20.09. He dealt with my biggest issues and still is but thats love cause who knows a man who would stick around through it all only a few out there, glad i snatched him up or he snatched me up lol. He is like the picture perfect person for me. I said i wanted a light skinned man(check) with tattos(check) makes me laugh(check check) and is mature and about his grind (checkkkk).

Nigel is out of my comfort zone, never have i been serious like this with anyone that much older than me, from a different state, and someone who cares more than me for a change. But me going out of comfort zone never made me feel so comfortable if that makes sense. He is my friend and my nigga before it all and I lovee that. Anything I need or want he strives to get it and does. I dont ask for much but for him to act right and he does.

YES, im selfish when it comes to him. If it were up to me I would be his only friend lol but I know i cant do that or maybe I can, hmm... lol jk but I'm anxious and exited to marry this silly man. I know we're going to have ups and downs and gonna try and kick me out the house and stuff but HEY guess what there will be 10x more fun/exciting moments. Can't wait to change my last name to Contaste, even though everyone won't know how to say it but uh...i'll still be honored lol.

but to the point I love my pooch and always will no matter how many times im going to ignore him ans have attitudes, just gotta let it happen lol

worse day ever.

Yesterday, 8.20.09 had to be the worse day ever. First because i went out to Posh the night before and didn't get in until 3 which gave me only 3 hours of sleep. But even before that wasn't on the best terms with my other half which just made things worse. But at least my outfit was pretty cute ;)


Don't get me wrong i had a descent amount of fun with Kashley but still had him on my mind the whole time and the next at work i was grumpyyy. And it seems like people just wouldn't leave me the hell alone. If i'm not talking and say im tired then whyyy keep asking. Everyone was on the verge of getting cursed outttt.


And in the middle of the day something told me to call this place for something and got horribleee news that pretty much sent my day to hell right then and there. And when I told Nigel blew his whole day too. Hate being the bearer of bad news but I was once again, blah. But by the time the end of the day came i was too ready to go home and get in bed and thats what i did.

But today is a better day and I left yesterday in past, everything does happen for a reason and patience plays a BIG factor in everthing. So maybe October wasn't when it was supposed to happen so we just have to keep it moving i guess.

EVO 4G

So i want the EVO 4G but its sold out -_- so now i have to wait. Vut played with it a few times and cool as fuck. Alot better than this HTC hero BS i have now that goes slow as helllll when you get to many messages. And is supposedly a smart phone...there is NOTHING smart about this phone. So, i'm determines to have that phone before the month is over!

FUCK THIS PHONE!

Wiz Khalifa

His music stays in my head everyday. I remember a few months ago I couldn't stand listening to him, I was like "who the fxck is Wiz Khalifa and this Taylor Gang shxt" lol but now I know and absolutely love this music and him <3

First Blog.

SO, I'm the one and only Erika Monique Frost

this is my first blog ever and just wanted to start it because I feel as I have a lot of shit to say. But sometimes people always try throwing salt and they opinions on it. So this is my own world where I can say what i want and IGG the outside world. Shoutout to my girl Kashley for her cute blogs, inspired me. :)

This is me all day everyday, a FREE spirit.